How to be Your own Person
1. Be unique. Don’t alter your style for the latest fashion. Dress in a way that reflects your personality, your personal taste, and how you are feeling at the time. It doesn’t matter whether people like it or not. True friends will like you for who you are, not for how you look.
2. Be open-minded. Don’t write people off before you get to know them. Make the effort to find out who they really are. Often we’re surprised to discover how much we have in common with people who look, and seem, very different to us … And being friends with them adds variety to life. It can bring out other aspects of our personality.
3. Find out what your interests and hobbies are. Spend time doing what you enjoy. You don’t have to pretend to like what others like, just to “fit in” or to feel like you belong.
4. Love and accept who you are. Be proud of the fact that you’re not just a clone. Enjoy being you – and appreciate yourself.
5. Understand that others will sometimes push you to please them, instead of being yourself. Often friends and family will want to define the type of person they think we should become. Don’t allow them to do that. You need to be yourself. You won’t be happy being somebody else.
If you’re a guy who likes looking at pictures of naked girls but loses respect for a girl if she posts a naked picture of herself, you can get lost
Ancient moon priestesses were called virgins. ‘Virgin’ meant not married, not belonging to a man - a woman who was ‘one-in-herself’. The very word derives from a Latin root meaning strength, force, skill; and was later applied to men: virile. Ishtar, Diana, Astarte, Isis were all called virgin, which did not refer to sexual chastity, but sexual independence. And all great culture heroes of the past, mythic or historic, were said to be born of virgin mothers: Marduk, Gilgamesh, Buddha, Osiris, Dionysus, Genghis Khan, Jesus - they were all affirmed as sons of the Great Mother, of the Original One, their worldly power deriving from her. When the Hebrews used the word, and in the original Aramaic, it meant ‘maiden’ or ‘young woman’, with no connotations to sexual chastity. But later Christian translators could not conceive of the ‘Virgin Mary’ as a woman of independent sexuality, needless to say; they distorted the meaning into sexually pure, chaste, never touched.
Monica Sjoo, The Great Cosmic Mother: Rediscovering the Religion of the Earth
Idealists devote much of their time to pursuing their own identity, their personal meaning, what they signify-their true Self. It is not, mind you, that they are self-centered, self-serving, or selfish; they focus on the Self of others as surely as on their own.
- David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II